Groups for children of divorced parents

This article deals with children's feelings at the time of, and after, parental separation. The argument is that it is important for children to have the opportunity of sharing their feelings, in a confidential setting, about such a momentous change in their lives. Children's groups are a way of meeting this need. In the Family Law Act 1996 new procedures relating to divorce are proposed. It is arguable that an opportunity has been lost, because little prominence is given to hearing from children directly. They may be seen but not in a situation which promotes sharing their true wishes and feelings. One small attempt to remedy this, the methods used and the problems encountered are described below. The authors hope that their experience might encourage others to set up services where the voices of children can be heard, without decisions or actions resulting from their confidences.